In the world there are low functioning and high functioning people. Being low functioning or high functioning has a lot to do with emotional intelligence. Low and High Functioning Really low functioning people act on emotions without thinking. An extreme example might be: In traffic, a car cuts off Bob. Bob gets angry and chases […]
There is a belief out there that people will only change when it’s a change or die scenario. Folks in business use this belief to motivate people to do things they want. They tell you that if you don’t do _______, there will be dire consequences. This idea is called The Burning Platform. The burning […]
In 1943 Abraham Maslow came up with his hierarchy of needs. Many of you probably already know it. It goes like the following from most urgent, most basic on up: Physical (air, food, shelter, clothing, etc.) Safety (from violence, war, abuse, natural disasters, etc.) Social (love and belonging, friendships, intimacy, etc.) Esteem (self-esteem, respect, confidence, […]
Did you know there is such a thing as “decision fatigue?” It’s a drain on our energy that comes from making too many decisions. It saps our energy and makes it harder and harder to make good choices. The number of decisions we make each day is staggering. Here is just a small sample of […]
Who knew depending on willpower could take up so much energy? If you find you are feeling too tired to discover your purpose and live your calling, reducing your dependence on willpower in your life can help free up some much needed energy. In our book, “SPLASH! Increase Your Life’s Impact,” we talk about an […]
If you want more energy available to use for your calling, stop hanging around people who are stressed out. I recently read about a study that showed being around stressed out people stresses us out, too (click here to read the article). Researchers found that stress is contagious. Watching a loved one undergo a stressful […]
In a semi-recent survey, Allstate found that most people think they’re great drivers, while they question the driving ability of those around them. We find that this sort of outlook doesn’t just apply to driving. Often people are thinking, “I’m fine. It’s everybody else that’s the problem.” Blaming If you look at this from an […]
What we focus on has an enormous influence over our experience of life. And often we get into focusing on all the problems. We talk about how bad is the economy, how horrible is ISIS, and Ebola is going to eat our children. While these things are horrible, it doesn’t have to be the focus […]
We keep talking about the things you need to do to find your calling. But you may ask, “How can I know when I’ve found my calling and stop looking?” Well, I’m glad you asked. Indicators You can know you’ve found your calling when you think or say the following: I am really good at […]
For most people, public speaking is a scary thing. What if we could reframe public speaking so it’s not quite so intimidating? John and I have been working with a couple (Amazing Women International) who is helping us get better at public speaking. They always remind us that the whole world is a stage. It […]
