The other day (OK, it was quite a while ago), I was stuck in anger and frustration. Things were happening to me at work that I didn’t like. The project lead would talk about what was wrong with the project – never talked about the progress we made or the breakthroughs we had. Progress was […]
The opposite of love is not hate as many think. There are two primary modes of operation we can have when we show up anywhere. These two modes are Love and Fear, and as you may have guessed, the opposite of love is actually fear. Whatever mode in which we are primarily operating will dominate […]
Sometimes when I interact with people, I hear them explain a certain behavior with the phrase, “That’s just the way I am.” The person is saying, “that’s the way I am, and I can’t change.” In truth, this is just making excuses for bad behavior that should stop. Reversing Negative Talk Getting such a behavior […]
In the movie, “City Slickers”, there is a scene between Mitch (Billy Crystal) and Curly (Jack Palance). In this scene, Curly shares the secret to life. The scene goes like this: Curly: “Do you know what the secret to life is?” Mitch: “No. What?” Curly: “This” (Holding up index finger) Mitch: “Your finger?” Curly: “One […]
Sometimes we experience a defining moment in our life. Because of this one moment, our whole life changes. I had a defining moment like this. As many of you have read in our book and in this blog, in 2005 I had a heart attack. I was very young for a heart attack at the […]
OK, it may be hard to see empathy is being any kind of weapon. But it most certainly is a very powerful tool. It helps in relationships of all kinds. It can even help us to be far more effective in making our desired, positive impact on the world. When we use empathy, we are […]
Sometimes our words are muddled. It’s easy to choose the wrong pronoun for what we are trying to express. But I’ve found that choosing the right word, “you” or “I,” helps us express ourselves well. It also helps the listener have a better experience. When to Use “I” or “You” Using “I” is appropriate anytime […]
A lifesong is a beautiful thing. It represents your unique impact on the world. It is the impact only you can have. We are each uniquely equipped with strengths, passions, life experiences, and more. Each of these things combine to make us who we are. They also shape how we will affect other people. Unfortunately, […]
A lot of folks these days are into doing good. I like this focus, and I have a simple tool to help take this sort of activity from good to really awesome. All we have to do is complete this sentence: “If I really loved this person, I would …” Before we dive into this, […]
In AA, one of the sayings is “keep your side of the street clean.” It’s usually applied to specific situations where they don’t let others’ behavior derail their sobriety and their journey through the steps. But I think we’ve taken this concept a little too far and applied it everywhere. Just to be clear, this isn’t a rant […]
