It’s important to apologize when we make a mistake. Saying “I’m sorry” isn’t always easy, though following are 12 little words that can make it easier.
“I was wrong.”
Admitting we’re at fault helps put people at ease and start the healing process.
“I’m sorry.”
Now to apologize… We’re going for some real remorse here, not just lip service.
“Please forgive me.”
In this step, we are really clearing the air by asking for forgiveness. It wouldn’t be right for them to nurse a grudge if they’ve said they forgive us.
“I love you.”
We should use this one only when appropriate. A business colleague might look at us like we’re crazy. A person who’s close to us, on the other hand, could really appreciate the reason behind the need to apologize.
Naturally, we are more inclined to apologize when we are at fault. Believe it or not, though, it can be beneficial to apologize even when the problem wasn’t our fault. Apologizing helps lower the other person’s resistance so he or she will be more likely to see their own part in the problem. Whether they do or not, it will help resolve the conflict.
One of the only downsides of apologizing is that it opens us up to criticism. An outburst from a hurt person is a possible outcome. Still, we should do our best to remain humble and patient even if someone lashes out. Getting defensive won’t help. It is the beginning of the healing process.
I hope this information makes it easier for you next time you apologize. We all occasionally make mistakes that negatively impact other people. An apology can help reverse that negative impact.
Special thanks to our pastor, Chuck Wysong of Life Community Church for mentioning the 12 word apology in his sermon last Sunday. He heard it from Chuck Swindoll.
