Sometimes I worry that I will be acceptable to other people and so I attempt to present a version of myself that I think others will like. I hide myself and present a false self. Sure parts of me are there – the parts I think you’ll accept and like, but the rest stays hidden.
I’m working on letting more of myself show up. Sometimes, though, if I feel intimidated or threatened, my facade pops right back up.
When this happens, as much as it protects me, it harms me even more. It gets in the way of building genuine relationships. It also hinders developing trust. My false self holds me back from getting where I want to be in life.
I’ve noticed that most of us have a false self. A lot of us go through life as posers. If we want to live fully pursuing our passions, our poser-self needs to go away – or at least show up a lot less often.
We (including myself) need to start paying attention to who we are when we’re comfortable with those around us, when no one is looking, and when we feel the most in our true self. Many of us need to discover who we really are, rather than the self that others want us to be.
When we discover our true self, we can connect to the strengths in our inner character. Our calling will be in harmony with our true self.
