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Hijacked by Emotions

I was working on a project at work. The project was late, as usual for this company. I was suggesting something and before I even finished, I was interrupted with, “we’re just not going to do that.” In that moment I was hijacked by emotions. It hit one of my “hot buttons.” Maybe this sometimes […]

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The Reason I am Here

I believe each of us has a reason for being here on planet Earth, and it’s not to just take up space, and it’s not to just survive or have fun until old age. The reason I’m here is to help people experience fuller life. To experience fuller life, we need to get to a […]

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The System of a Relationship

There is a joke that goes like this: A young man loses an eye in battle, and gets a replacement wooden eye. After several months of hiding himself and staying indoors, a friend finally convinces him to get out and come to the local town dance. This fellow shyly watches everyone else dance until he […]

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The Best Deal

A lot of us spend time and energy getting the most out of the moment we are in. For example, when we are negotiating a deal, we want the best deal. We want to get the most out of our relationships, and we want to get the most out of our jobs/careers. There’s nothing wrong […]

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Tools and Gear

This is a bit different than our usual topics. Today I’m going over the nitty gritty of the specific tools and gear that I use. I describe what I use to help me accomplish what I do for Simply Great Lives. (Note that some of these tools and gear I use for the training I […]

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Stress Free Driving

My wife, Rena, doesn’t drive, so she gets to ride with a lot of different drivers. She mentions from time to time that her experience of them driving is very different. Often the experience is very stressful. She says that when she rides with me, it’s often much more peaceful. I want to share some […]

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Who’s It For Anyway?

I’ve noticed that there are several approaches to getting our needs, wants and desires in life. I have identified 4 different approaches. And if you pay attention, often you can tell which approach someone is going for. These approaches are: I try to get what I get what I want I manipulate you to get […]

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Context is Everything

I talk a lot about focusing on results, however the context around those results is just as important – and may even be more important than the results themselves. Often, though, we ignore the context. A poorly set up context can invalidate the results we worked so hard to achieve. Context is everything. Let me […]

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Increasing Mental Capacity

These days I don’t remember as much as I used to. It’s a bit unsettling. For example, in my younger years, I would park in long term parking at the airport, and I’d remember my parking area when I got back. Today I think I’ll remember, but I’ll write it down just in case, and […]

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The Mists of Purpose

Back in 1999, I read a book that walked me through a formula to create a purpose statement. When I was done with their process, I had a purpose statement, but I sure didn’t know what to do with it. Looking back, that first purpose statement wasn’t that far off from what I have now […]

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