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You Get What You Tolerate

Your life isn’t a result of your circumstances. Instead, you get what you tolerate. Your life is filled with the things for which you settle – the things that you allow to remain in your life. One of the tough truths to take in is the idea that we are responsible for our experiences in […]

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I Don’t Give a Rip

I encounter people from time to time who say something like, “I don’t worry about other people. I let them make their own choices.” Basically these folks are saying, “I don’t give a rip about other people. I live my life and I let them live theirs.” My Experience I used to live by this […]

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Exponential Relationship Boosters

Helping people have better relationships isn’t our main gig here. At Simply Great Lives, we normally focus on helping people have a bigger impact in the world. But as it turns out, it’s hard to have a big impact in the world if you have poor relationships. So here are two turbo charged relationship boosters. If […]

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Getting into the Resourceful State

When we are facing challenges, we often don’t consider the state we are in. Instead we just do our best to tackle the problem at hand. However, our state of being or state of mind makes a huge difference. It really helps to get into the resourceful state. Software Bugs I encountered this before I […]

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Problems Are Not the Problem

If you were to ask people what they’d most like to eliminate in their life, they’d usually answer about all the problems they are facing. “If I could just get rid of these problems, then life would be good.” However, this really isn’t true. Our problems are not the problem. If we got rid of all […]

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The Margin and the Page

Think of your life as a sheet of notebook paper. On this sheet, there is the main part of the page, and there is the margin on the side. The page presents the main things in your life, and the margin hold the extra things in your life if there’s time, energy and funds left […]

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Riding a Dead Horse

One of my mentors, many years ago shared this awesome quote, “If you’re riding a dead horse, for God’s sake, dismount.” This statement is pretty funny because it seems so obvious and absurd. But in practice, it’s quite tricky. The reason it’s tricky is that pretty much nothing is ever fully dead. It’s just mostly […]

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Have You Given Up on the Prize?

If you were to live full out to win the prize, to know that you finished well, what would that look like? For most of us, if we lived full out, our life would look pretty different. I love this quote: “Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving […]

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Marginalized

Before I was self-employed, I worked for various companies. There was this standard message that I was given at many of these places. Not long after I hired on, I was sat down and told something like, “You don’t matter. If you don’t produce the results we want, we’ll let you go and get someone […]

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The Maze Inside of Us

I’ve noticed that we all have an internal maze. This maze inside of us consists of all the rules that we follow to be liked, loved and accepted, and to feel like we’re good people. This maze is really complex, so complex in fact, that we often never find the “cheese” at the end. The […]

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